change perspectives
It strikes me that in these changing times, it is the loss of our future not the loss of our past that causes that feeling of uncertainty. Of course, we each react to this with a whole range of emotions – shock, denial, disbelief, mistrust and anxiety – perhaps even anger and bitterness.
And yet, what about the people not directly affected by experiences such as redundancy, divorce or even bereavement? They may still have a similar range of feelings, maybe relief, guilt, anger & insecurity.
Traditional theories often illustrate this range of emotions as a standard line, experienced through time and at varying degrees of intensity. Yet, how we respond and the emotions we have can vary quite markedly from person to person. How can this be so?
Well, have you ever noticed how two people can experience the same thing yet recall it completely differently? You may say that they hold different perspectives on the same situation.
People who view change as a threat will often hold fixed, rigid beliefs that are left unchallenged. These people will find it difficult to see from their perspective how any good could come out of change. Sometimes, they even wonder how they will ever get by again!
On the other hand, people who embrace change seem to have far more open and flexible beliefs, choosing to respond in a resouceful way by constantly shifting their perspective. They somehow know that although they may not be able to change their experience, they can choose how to respond to it!
How would it be if you could shift your perspective and experience changes in your life in a different way? What if you found a new and empowering way to respond to change in the 21st Century?
What new choices could that shift reveal for you? What new perspectives will you gain?
Labels: bereavement, change, coaching, divorce, life coaching, perspective, redundancy
posted by ulife at 3:39 PM
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